Desperation times
Published 7 months, 2 weeks ago in My life.Hey all
I have few question to ask everyone, and really want to hear what everyone thinks.
My ex bf gaved me a 2 yr anniversary ring, it was the most beautiful ring i have ever seen in my whole life. however, i gaved back to him on the day of break up, because i thought there was no use for me to have it if we’ve broke up. Also having it would only remind me of him.
Therefore i have been desperatly searching, searching for a replacement, i have found rings that i love, but i don’t love it as much as the ring i had. I can’t get over the desperationg of wanting the ring, i don’t want the relationship, i just want the ring coz i love it so much. I know it probably will bring back memories, but it’s good memories and not bad. He also said himself i can have it back, it doesn’t fit him lol joking.
Question: Do you think i can ask it back? Would it cause any misunderstanding? Should i give something back if his giving me the ring back? In the rule book of break ups is asking things back a bad idea?
Plz help me.
Thank you all.
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some cultures have this to say ‘he who gives and asks to have it back will live in hell’. but then u seem to be living it already. ask the wiseman shadowmaster
I think i’ve already know the taste of hell, and.. i decide not to ask back just because i know it will not bring anything good to me, i just have to keep on looking for a replacement ring lol
Well, I would say there’s nothing wrong with asking for it back, but it might be a little bit awkward, especially if he’s returned it to the store. Still, if you really, really want it back, there’s no harm in asking.
Personally, I figure it’s much more fun to go shopping specifically for a new ring for yourself - that way you’ll have a good time shopping for it, buy it for yourself (girl power!), and it will remind you of whatever good memories you’ll have wearing it, irrespective of boyfriends.
If I may recommend some good shops, alternative type clothing stores like Tree of Life and Ishka have some really nice (and not crazy-weird) jewellery, and I’ve heard good things about the Mornington Market involving rings made from old cutlery which look AWESOME, and I’m assuming most markets would have a good range of rings anyway. Charley Weaver has good jewllery if you’re into more gothic-type rings, and remember there’s always good ol’ online shopping (fun AND easy). If you’re worried about using your credit or debit card online, you can buy $50 visa cards to use for online shopping.
It sounds like you’re dealing with the break up a lot better… keep us posted, and best of luck finding a new guy or just enjoying single life.
Hey ladychaos
Thanks for your advice, during break ups, you have your temptation and getting the ring back was my temptation, and i know clearly that my emotions, my heart wants the ring me back, i assume to have just a bit of him to myself, but my body and my brain says different. The end result is i’m am buying a new ring, i’m not really into any special ring, i just want a nice looking silver diamond ring, i’ve spot a nice one in Micheal Hills so i’m going there to check it out sometime with my best friend. I know that no ring will make me feel happy because i can never replace what that ring ment to me however getting a new ring well stop my desperation of searching for one and stop looking at every jellwery shop i walk past.
I don’t really know how am i dealing with my break up, i just try to look forward, look ahead and not turn back.
Lady C is right………I love Ishka. I think you could get a moonstone ring…moonstone for new beginnings !!